Finding calm amongst the chaos

Bendy Mamas is back! After going abroad for our first family holiday it’s now time to get back into the routine of naps, baby groups, weaning and domestic chores.

It feels like there’s so much to do when you get back from holiday that I always wonder how you ever fitted it all in before you left. I guess it’s a sign of a good break if you’d had the chance to slow right down.

I promise you it will have a calming and strengthening effect

In an effort to recapture some of the lazy days holidays can bring, I wanted to share a great technique for slowing down. Luckily this is something you can do anywhere and even 5 minutes will make a difference to how you feel.

Find a space you feel relaxed in, ideally somewhere relatively quiet with nothing to distract you – the bathroom or your bedroom floor can be a good places. Decide how long you have to practice e.g. 5 or 10 minutes and set your alarm. This means you don’t have to keep one eye on the clock.

Sit in a comfortable cross-legged position, either with your back against the wall or sitting on a prop if you need it.


Place one hand on your chest and one hand on your belly and relax your shoulders as you breathe out.

Breathe in

As you breathe in say to yourself ‘open’ – allow your shoulders to move back slightly and feel how your chest gets bigger as you take a nice long breath in. Think about expanding your chest and opening your lungs to take in lots of fresh air.

Breathe out

As you breathe out, say to yourself ‘reeee-lax’ – your shoulders should lower and you’ll feel your belly deflate.

Continue like this aiming to make your breathing slow and relaxed. You can say the words out loud or in your head but do try associating the words with your inhale and exhale.

Try to resist the temptation to open your eyes or let your mind wander. The first time you do this it will feel like you’ve been doing it for ages but will probably only be a few minutes. It takes practice to clear your mind and just focus on your breathing but it’s such a good technique to learn. If you can do this even for just 5 minutes a day I promise you it will have a calming and strengthening effect!

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