It might sound a bit daft but I thought I’d write about how to relax. This is more of a quick-fix type of relax – ideal for when you want to unwind quickly (as in less than 10 minutes!).
It’s something I like to do when I’ve just put my baby to sleep. I find it really helps to draw a line under the day and put me in the right frame of mind for some grown-up conversation.
find some comfort in the slow regular rhythm of your breathing
1. Find a spot in the house where you won’t be disturbed and decide how long you are going to give yourself to unwind
2. Set your phone alarm for that period of time (e.g 6 minutes) and set your phone so it won’t disturb you until your alarm goes off. The alarm on my phone will still go off when my phone is in silent mode which is perfect for this exercise. This means you can now focus on you without worrying about the time
3. Choose a position that you find comfortable: it could be sitting up with a straight back or if your feet ache (which mine usually do after being on them all day), lie on the floor with your legs up against the wall or with your legs bent and your feet on the floor
4. Once you’ve chosen your position and you’re comfy, place one hand on your chest and one hand on your belly and close your eyes
5. For the time you have remaining, try to focus on your breathing. You’ll be able to feel your chest expand as you inhale through the hand on your chest and similarly be able to feel your exhale through the hand on your belly
6. Tune in to this breathing pattern and find some comfort in the slow regular rhythm. Try to keep thinking about your breathing and not let your mind wander
meditative time can really make a difference to your state of mind and energy levels
7. Continue like this: focus on the rhythm of your breathing and if your mind starts to wander try to let the thoughts go and not engage yourself in a mental conversation
8. Once your alarm goes off, slowly remove your hands and open your eyes and taking it easy, gently get up
Hopefully once you leave the room to restart your evening you’ll feel more relaxed and together than when you entered it.
I find even 5 or 6 minutes of this kind of quiet meditative time can really make a difference to my state of mind and energy levels. I hope it works for you too.